Recently, while visiting White Plains Hospital, I became aware of the fact that an individual can no longer simply “visit the sick” without information about a specific individual that you are visiting. For instance, if you are going to visit, say, your own synagogue’s congregants; members of your community who are ill, you will not get that list.
HIPPA regulations (health privacy) have changed things.
You need to register as a “Bikkur Cholim” group. To my knowledge, our synagogue for instance, does not have such a group or such an initiative.
I recently ran into someone who used to be a congregant at my shul (Westchester Jewish Center). “You haven’t seen me because we are no longer members. We haven’t been members for 2 years now.” “Why,” I asked. “Because when I was sick in a hospital in Manhattan, the rabbi never came to see me. The reality is that people who are sick and are not visited by their rabbi feel cheated and devalued. And they never talk about it. They just either drop out of the synagogue and synagogue activities or, one day, they simply leave. Unfortunately, particularly in a large metropolitan area, the Rabbi can’t be everywhere, and more importantly, can’t visit if they don’t know that you are hospitalized and where
We as laymen are not substitutes for Rabbinical Comfort.
But that shouldn’t stop us from visiting the sick. With a little effort we, too, could create a recognized Bikkur Cholim group. With a bit more effort, we could remind our own people that THIS is a part of what Brotherhood does and represents.
There are a few questions here:
1.How have you approached the challenge of visiting the sick.
2.What do you want your club to do and be that adds legitimate value to both your life and the lives of your congregant family.
3.What do you want your FJMC to do and be that will both supplement your ability as an individual and as a Brotherhood to make a difference in the life of your community and your sense of what is the right thing to do (that isn’t being done).
4.If you were asked by your Brotherhood to be a part of a Bikkur Cholim team that visits sick people that you don’t know, would you say, “Yes, I will.”




